Well, it’s been over a month of summer already ... how is that possible? I feel like it’s been one big blur! Have you accomplished anything on your summer bucket list already? I feel like I’m not even halfway done with mine!
By the time April comes around, do you immediately plan out a huge list of everything you want to accomplish for the upcoming summer? Maybe an adventurous vacation that will look super cool on your Instagram posts? Or ways to get together with friends you haven't seen in while, like go to a drive-in movie? Or, as we all attempt to do, workout and eat healthy so we can have the perfect beach body? I know I'm guilty of all this, literally every year.
I think everyone has this concept of what summer should be. It's the time of year when it's warm outside and everyone is out of school. With nothing to do but have fun, it's easy to create a list of all the crazy things that you want to do before summer ends. Let me just say, from personal experience, it's not going to turn out exactly how you picture it. Once you become an adult, you have to get a job and summer isn't necessarily a "break" but rather a normal season like any other.
If you're creating a bucket list for this summer yet feeling unmotivated to get them accomplished, just know that you are definitely not the only one. Let me share with you a few examples of the expectations vs. reality of summertime:
Taking Cute Pictures
Expectation: Everyone knows that summer is the perfect time to get a cute candid Instagram picture on the beach. A chic new bikini from PacSun, wavy beach hair, bright blue cloudless sky, a pink donut pool float and the huge blue ocean behind you, it’s worth a snap.
Reality: Let’s be real, most of those amazing pictures you see on Instagram or Pinterest of people having an amazing vacation are filtered and edited big time. The girl’s flawless hair was probably actually covered in sand and was painful to brush out afterwards. The donut inner tube also probably took at least over ten minutes to blow up, and that is never a glamorous task unless you have the lungs of a dragon. And when it comes to taking a “candid” picture, itain’t as easy as it looks. The photographer can tell me as many times as possible to look natural, but that just makes me look more unnatural and awkward. It’ll look more like a seagull pooped on my head rather than looking like a beach goddess.
Expectation: Summer is the season for fresh organic food. Who doesn’t love those Saturday morning trips to the farmers market to buy fresh produce while drinking iced coffee? And it’s a great time to try out some healthy recipes for body cleansing and detoxifying!
Reality: I don’t know about you, but summer does not in any way change my diet. I’m a pretty healthy eater and I like doing everything in moderation, but warmer weather doesn’t make me crave salads right off the bat. In fact, my ideal summer break involves eating some damn delicious ice cream outside after an Italian meal consisting of wine and margherita pizza. Honestly, those all look way more aesthetic in pictures than salads!
Dream Destination Vacations
Expectation: Summer is the best time to cross off bucket list goals and go on a super once-in-a-lifetime vacation. Greece, Hawaii, the Bahamas, Disney World, anywhere where there’s both relaxation and adventure sounds like a blast!
Reality: While a lot of people go on at least one family vacation over the summer, it can be hard to plan the perfect vacation when you’re on a very low budget. It’s especially rough when you’re still in college and working every day to make enough money to go grocery shopping and fill up car gas. Man, adulting sucks.
Making Plans With The Squad
Expectations: Now that it’s warmer outside and everyone’s not in school, it’s a great time to reunite the squad for some unforgettable nights out. No summer is complete without a trip to the pool, a baseball game or a concert with friends!
Reality: Mostly everyone is working an internship or part-time job that constantly keeps them busy. While it’s easy to get a least one or two get togethers in, the rest of the time consists of either working or staying at home watching The Office on Netflix.
Expectation: Now that you have three months off, this gives you plenty of time to get situated and organized. From cleaning out your closet to crossing stuff off your to-do list, it’s the perfect way to feel mentally balanced.
Reality: Three months on break also gives you plenty of time to put off all the things you have to do to get organized. And before you know it, it’s time to go back to school which forces you toget TWICE more organized. Good grief!
I hope this post made you laugh and feel less worried about making this summer perfect, but please don’t look at it too negatively either. This definitely wasnot supposed to make summertime sound depressing and boring. Summer is one of the best seasons and my personal favorite, but some people’s expectations of what it should be like is a little over exaggerated.
If you’re feeling self-conscious about having a healthy summer beach body, planning a vacation or trying to post artsy pictures on social media, don’t let those negative emotions get the best out of you. Just because you're growing up and becoming more busy like the rest of us doesn't mean you can't have fun anymore. Perhaps make a list of at least ten things you want to do before summer ends, and make some time out of you're busy schedule to do them. Also get some of your closest friends or relatives together at least a few times to catch up on life. Nothing makes this sunny season more blissful than people you love spending quality time with!
Just relax, accomplish what you need or want to get done, and make sure to cherish every moment of this summer before autumn arrives!